At 2:30 AM, I woke up drenched in sweat. Nauseous. Feeling like death.
My wife drove me to the ER. There was a line. By the time we got close, I felt better.
We left.
Big mistake.
The next morning, I was at my desk as usual, convinced I'd dodged a bullet.
I had no idea I'd just survived a heart attack.
A year later, after a grueling physical, the doctor looked me straight in the eye: "You won't make it to 30 if you don't change."
Twenty-five years later, an angiogram at the Cleveland Clinic revealed the brutal truth: my right coronary artery had completely dissolved years before. My body had built its own bypass system through sheer will to survive.
My success habits nearly murdered me. And I was completely blind to it.
Here's what I've learned...
If you're a CEO of a $10-75M company and your business depends on YOU making every critical decision, there's a pattern I need to share with you that could save your life—and everything you've built.
But it requires looking at your situation from a completely different angle.
The Success Habits That Become Success Traps
You know the feeling. Exhaustion that you wear like a badge of honor.
Sleepless nights that prove your dedication.
The belief that pushing through when others quit is what separates you from the pack.
I used to think the same way. Until my body forced me to see things differently.
But here's what's really interesting: most of us don't see it coming because we're so focused on what's directly in front of us.
Every "I'll sleep when I'm dead" mentality becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Every "Only I can handle this" decision creates the dependency that eventually destroys both you and your company.
Your decision-making capacity deteriorates gradually. Your company becomes dependent on a leader who's slowly burning out. Your best people leave because they can't grow.
Sound familiar? I'm betting you're reading this late at night, aren't you?
Why Smart Leaders Miss What's Right in Front of Them
You're not some Fortune 500 CEO managing shareholders and board politics.
You're a middle market leader where every decision has YOUR fingerprints on it. Whether you built this from scratch, inherited a family legacy, or earned your way to the top—the buck stops with YOU.
That brilliant mind that created your success? Sometimes it becomes the very thing that limits your perspective.
Here's the challenge: You can't read the label from inside the bottle.
The patterns that might be constraining your growth aren't external threats. They're often the exact behaviors that built your success:
- Your reluctance to delegate critical decisions (which limits your company to your personal capacity)
- Your need to personally oversee everything (creating operational bottlenecks)
- Your identity as the indispensable leader (making your company difficult to scale or sell)
- Your confidence in your own judgment (which can blind you to systematic issues)
These patterns are invisible because they look like strengths. And they compound daily.
The Isolation That Comes With Success
Here's something most people don't talk about: 50-72% of CEOs report feeling isolated in their roles. You have fewer and fewer people to talk to who really understand what you're dealing with.
Employees tell you what they think you want to hear. You can't share your real concerns with your spouse because it would worry them. Your friends don't really understand the weight you carry.
You end up carrying everything alone.
Meanwhile, 56-75% of business leaders report significant burnout. The divorce rate for CEOs is higher than the general population—and for women CEOs, it's twice as high within three years of promotion.
Success can be isolating. And isolation makes it harder to see your own patterns clearly.
Why Traditional Solutions Often Fall Short
You've probably tried various approaches. Hired coaches. Brought in consultants. Reorganized teams. Implemented systems like EOS, Scaling Up, OKRs.
Some helped. But many just added complexity without addressing the core issue.
Why?
Because most solutions focus on managing your current patterns more efficiently. Very few help you step back and see which patterns might need to change entirely.
The real challenge? You've become the single point of failure in your own success story.
And this isn't your fault. Nobody taught you how to scale yourself. Your success literally trained everyone around you to depend on you. The system created the problem, not your character.
The patterns that built your success might now be constraining it. And that's hard to see when you're in the middle of the storm. You're inside the bottle.
The Accountant Who Changed My Perspective
Late 30s. Height of my career. Every morning, same corner: Winchester and Diaz.
Same man. Well-dressed. Suit and tie. Holding a sign: "Accountant seeking work."
Every. Single. Morning.
Every. Single. Morning.
I'd drive by in my expensive car on the way to the business I owned. Same thought would hit me: That guy is educated. Probably smart. Maybe no different than me in many ways.
Why is he on the corner... and I own a successful company?
But for some good fortune could that have been me?
That question haunted me because it revealed something uncomfortable: maybe the difference between success and failure is thinner than we like to admit.
That fear can drive us to create success habits that become success traps. If you're the only one who can make decisions, no one can discover your vulnerabilities. If you're the only one who sees problems, no one can question your solutions.
Your intelligence becomes both your greatest asset and your biggest blind spot.
What if the issue isn't your business...
What if it's not your team...
What if it's not the market...
What if it's simply that you need a different perspective on the situation?
I'm Brad Adams. Here's What Crisis Taught Me About Perspective
My father died when I was 19. His last gift? Teaching me to always ask "what's really going on here" beneath surface chaos.
That gift nearly destroyed me.
By 27, I was CEO of a growing company, convinced I could handle it all. My body disagreed. Heart attack at 28. Doctor's exact words: "You won't make it to 30 if you don't change."
But the crisis taught me something valuable: Being indispensable isn't strength. It's often a sign that something needs to change.
Years later, when my wife died, leaving me with three young daughters, I learned something that transformed how I think about leadership: The urgent isn't always important. The important isn't always urgent. And the intelligence you're proud of can sometimes work against you if you're not careful.
The moment I was forced to step back and see my situation from the outside, everything became clearer.
Three Geniuses Who Shaped My Approach
Joseph Granville, legendary market analyst: "If it's obvious, it's obviously wrong." This reinforced my natural tendency to look for what others might be missing.
Peter Drucker, at the graduate school named in his honor where I earned my MBA: "What's really going on here?" He taught me to use penetrating questions to drill past surface stories to find underlying patterns.
Tony Robbins, through his trainer's academy: People create limiting patterns and stories to avoid uncomfortable truths. The underlying question is always: "What's really going on here?"